She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watched over the affairs of her household an does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
This post is dedicated to the woman closet to me. This woman has raised me, molded me, and impacted my life in ways unimaginable. She is one of the greatest inspirational figures in my life.
Lets start with... My MOM. I call her "Me" (pronounced a strong "meh" in Vietnamese), MAAM for fun, MUMZEES for more fun, or Mom. Its funny because whether I'm joking around with her or being serious, I can use any of her Mom names and she'll respond! That's how awesome she is!!!!
All jokes aside, my mom is seriously awesome. No I'm serious. That quote up there embodies EVERYTHING about my mom. I used to read that quote growing up trying to imagine a woman that could possibly do everything within those lines... and well I didnt find anyone nearly close to being able to do that... and not till i'm nearly 30 have I realized that it's been my mom this entire time.
My mom has...
-Owned a business
-helped her family flee her once war stricken country
-build up our family with barely any financial means
-is honored and recognized wherever she goes
-paid for my sister and I's ENTIRE college education
-purchased and paid off all our homes with her's & my dad's hard earned money
-sacrificed her own desires for the greater good of others
-a match maker (lol yes... you need a husband my mom's got your back)
-been our family's anchor and relationship mender
-prayed for me when I was sick
-prayed for me to find a good husband (I sure did!)
-prayed for me to do what God called me to do (I sure am!)
-and prayed for my Dad to be resurrected from moments of death (Yes... she prayed for my dad's heart to beat again after he went into several minutes of cardiac arrest).
My mom is quite the mom of all moms.
Now looking at her stature when she's next to me, she's only 4'10... much smaller than the whole list above, but her heart, and her love for our family and the people around her exceeds any human height. I'd have to say it's a heavenly kind of height. There's no limit to her love, and no limit to the impact she knows she can make.
Let me tell you something, our relationship hasnt always been pretty and motherly. In fact we fought... A LOT... I'd always tell people my family had a tumultuous history I kept praying when I was in my teens that SHE would change. But as my prayers continued.. and matured... so did my perspective. My mom isn't perfect, but she's been perfect for ME. God really changed my heart towards her because I felt that many of her decisions were unjust, but now knowing the root of WHY she did what she did makes me appreciate her even more. I'm sure it wasnt easy to say "no" at times, and to say "yes, but...". I was just angry, hurt, and felt misunderstood as a teen, but now knowing WHY she did what she did helps me to appreciate her decisions back then.
My mom always told me "you'll understand when you have your own kid one day". And I use to just scoffed and storm away. When I got into my 20's I was discovering why things were the way they were, I also looked further into why people made the decisions they did. Not until then did I realize... for every action there's a foundational root. You don't just do things "just because", but because you have either a subliminal or underlying reason for your action. I honestly believe my mom and many other moms act out of those underlying reasons whether their family agrees or not, or even if she can explain WHY she's doing what she's doing either.
For all I know my mom didn't need a reason, her word was final and that was that. Did it hurt? Heck yeah. Did I remember it? Eventually. Did I learn something from it (whether good or bad?)? Yah totally. Lastly... what I say often to others who endure somewhat challenging times and survive is... "BUT DID YOU DIE?!" lol! But seriously, did the things my mom say to me affect me in a life or death situation? No. But all the things she did say to me shaped my personality, my thoughts, my behavior, my actions today, and eventually how I decide (with Katzy) to raise our own kids one day.
My mom had to make many challenging choices in her life time. Many of them before I was even born. But I think the greatest decision she's ever made was to have me so that I could grow up and become someone in this big world. I want to be that someone who's impacted as many lives as my mom has. I want to be a mom for my own kids like my mom who loved fearlessly, sacrificially, and endlessly.
So all in all... my mom is amazing. And you need to meet her. I promise she'll make you smile. She makes everyone smile... the check out stand lady at the grocery store.. the girl in the dressing room (omg so embarassing), the lady picking out an apple from the apple cart... or even the man walking by with his dog during my mom and dad's evening walk... she seriously is that good. So don't hesitate, meet my mom!
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